When someone's spouse dies, it's extremely difficult to know how to express yourself. Sympathy card messages are already difficult to write. When you factor in that the most important personal relationship has ended, writing in a sympathy card for the death of a husband or wife can become down right scary.
You may have assumptions about what the surviving spouse is feeling, but you could easily be wrong. People go through natural stages of grief, and the process includes emotions such as anger, confusion, hopelessness, guilt, or even apathy. Sometimes we might assume sorrow is the logical response when someone close to us dies, but this is not a time of logical thought. Feelings are in more control of us. Each person grieves in their own way and on their own terms.
Consider other factors such as how close the relationship was, how old the couple was, and what their religious views are. Keep all these factors in mind when writing your sympathy message, but don't be too intimidated. Here are some examples to help you write a sympathy message for the death of a spouse.
Messages for Death of Husband
I am lucky to have known your husband. He was a great friend, and I'll miss him. I'll be praying for you as I think of him and the good memories.
Losses aren't meant to be endured alone. Losing a spouse is a good reason to allow those who care about you to extend support. Expect me to offer to help in ways you need help and ways I want to help.
I will pray that the Lord will show you the love that he has for you. If you ever feel alone, know that you are not.
If you feel overwhelmed in the coming days, weeks, or months, let me know. You don't have to bear it alone. I am available to talk anytime.
I am glad I was blessed to know ____. He was ____. I will miss him. Please accept my sincere sympathy.
I only met your husband a couple times, and he left a great impression on me. I know that you spoke highly of him. Please accept my condolences.
Your husband was a great guy. I enjoyed working with him, and I will miss his sense of humor. I just want to let you know that I am sorry for your loss.
Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss. I never met him, but I imagine he was a great guy if he was anything like you. Please don't hesitate to call me if you want to talk to hang out.
I was extremely surprised to hear about your husband's death. Please know that I am praying for you and your family.
It never seems fair when people we are close to die. I want you tell you that I am sorry for the loss of your husband. I am thinking of you and your family. Please accept my condolences.
He will be greatly missed. I'll hold my good memories as a way to keep him alive.
Messages for Loss of a Wife
I don't know what you might be feeling at this time. I am available any time you want someone to listen.
I am sorry for your loss. I am at a loss for words and have no idea what to say right now. I want you to know that I am available for you to talk to you anytime.
I was surprised to hear about your wife's death. You always spoke highly of her and mentioned positive qualities about her. I am sorry for your loss.
My deepest sympathies for the loss of your wife.
I just heard that your wife died, and I am deeply sorry. Please expect me to check in with you soon. Until then, let me know if there's anything I can do to help.
It's difficult to know what you might be feeling right now. If you want someone to talk to, know that I am available. I am sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family.
She will live on in our memories which will comfort us when we think of her.
When someone as special as your wife lives the way she did, her legacy is sure to live on through the many lives she touched.
I admired your wife for the dynamic way she lived her life. She will remain an inspiration in my life.
When you experience a loss it's important to know your friends are there for you. Expect me to reach out to you in the coming weeks.