Sympathy card messages are possibly the most difficult to write. Learn how to write a message for a sympathy card. Use your tact and empathy to build the perfect message. Use common words that are usually found in sympathy cards. Most importantly, learn what not to write in sympathy cards.
Things you'll need:
- Some tact
2. Express your own feelings. This is the definition of sympathy. Show the person that you feel loss, sorrow, sadness, etc. Be brief and be genuine. Here is an example of what to write: "I am in shock at the news, and I know I will miss Randy."
3. Give your support. Your support is an extremely helpful thing when someone dies. Especially when a spouse dies, your friendship and help can make a huge difference. Be specific about how you want to help. Here is an example: "Expect me to call you in the next couple days to check on you." Don't worry, it is usually o.k.. for you to say, "I'll be praying for you" even if you don't know what religion the person practices.
4. Now you have written a great supportive sympathy card message. Use an appropriate closing. You can use "Sincerely, with warm regards, your friend, Love, You are in my prayers." Choose the closing that fits your relationship and the person you are writing the message for.
Tips & Warnings
- Keep your sympathy message concise and to the point
- Start sentences with "I" instead of "You" in order to avoid offending.
- Don't tell the person how they feel such as, "You've got to be feeling depressed."
- Don't use meaningless clichés such as, "It's all for the best." It's better to not judge the situation at all.
- Don't mention any personal business such as money owed by the survivors of the deceased.